How to Finally Achieve Your Goals

I am a pro at setting goals for myself. I am a sucker for self-improvement and I love working toward something. But the thing is, I am not always a pro at achieving goals and I know what my problem is: I never tell a soul about my goals. I don’t know what scares me about it. I will literally hide my list of goals from anyone and claim that it is just a grocery list when anyone steals a glance. Weird, I know. But that has to change. I am starting to realize that telling your friends and family about your goals is one of the best ways to keep you on track.


Your friends will remind you that the deadline is coming up (or has passed).

When you set a goal with a hard and fast deadline and tell your friends about it, they will remind you that D-Day is coming up. They can’t help it. They want to hear about your achievements so they will be keeping tabs on you.

They will give you encouragement when they see your willpower wavering.

Your friends want the world for you and they will be in your corner the whole time. When your faith and willpower are running low, they will be the cheerleaders to your star football team. They will remind you about why that goal is important to you and what it will mean for you when you reach your goal.

They will give you advice to overcome obstacles and avoid roadblocks.

You will encounter obstacles in your path. There will always be things we have to work through to make our goals a reality. But your support system will give you advice and support to help you through it.

They will celebrate with you when you reach your goal.

Once you make it to the end, you friends will be popping the champagne and pouring a glass for you.

So much good can come out of sharing your goals with your support system. I will keep working on it. Do you share your goals with your family and friends?

2017 Year in Review


2017 Year in Review

A behind the scenes look at the ups and downs of 2017.

I know everyone and their mom is saying this, but I can’t believe 2017 is over. It feels like 2017 was a whirlwind and it went by faster than a Sunday spent binge watching Criminal Minds. Now that I made it to the end of the year, I want to take a step back and look at what went well for me this year and what went not so well so I can make 2018 my best year yet! Let’s get into it.

The Good: Top 5

I bought a house!

It was an exhausting, emotional roller coaster at times, but it is so amazing when you  finally get the keys in your hands and you have a space that’s all yours.

I became a Desire Map Facilitator.

I read the Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte and loved every word. The Desire Map is all about figuring out how you want to feel and doing things that make you feel that way. Let me tell you, Danielle preaches in this book. She offers a licensing for this program which means you can host workshops and lead others through the Desire Mapping process. I’m so excited to start hosting workshops in 2018. If you’re interested in attending a virtual Desire Map workshop, click here to sign up to be receive all the details when the dates are set (you’ll also get the free intro course!)

I got a life coach.

I was coached by the wonderful Pam Tajima. She was working on her life coaching certification and was offering free coaching. Yes please! Let me tell you, being coached by Pam was life changing. Every week my mind was being blown into a million pieces. She helped my to cut through all the bullshit I was telling myself and gave me the tools to stop worrying and start building the life I’ve always wanted.

We got a new puppy.

And her name is Ruby! She is the pretty much a teddy bear mixed with a big splash of Tasmanian Devil. My mom found her on the side of the road with no collar and no microchip. Aaron and I were thinking about getting another dog so Hazel, our loving pitbull, could have a buddy and suddenly there was Ruby. She absolutely drives me insane, but she is so sweet that I can’t help but love her.

I discovered the importance of putting myself first.

One of the things that I realized while Desire Mapping and being coached was that it's important to put yourself first and take the time for self-care. I was spending so much time and energy focused on what other people need and putting myself last. For some reason I had it in my head that spending time on yourself was selfish. I’ve never been more wrong.

The Not so Good: Bottom 5

I lost track of what I wanted out of my life.

I got sucked into my day job and the routines that come with an 8-5 job. I got stuck in the cycle of wake up - go to work - come home - eat dinner - and do it all over again. I was also distracted by all the newness of owning a house and obsessing over paint colors, furniture placement, and dreaming up all the upgrades I wanted to make. I lost track of working toward my dream of working for myself and being in complete control of how I spend my days.

I didn’t spend enough time with my friends.

This one goes hand in hand with the one up above. I got so wrapped up in my day-to-day life that I rarely invited my friends to do anything. I only really spent time with my friends when invited me to do something.

I stopped sharing on social media

Well to be honest, I’ve never been a big social media sharer. But I have so few posts that you could forget that I was alive. I got caught up in the comparison trap and just felt like anything I posted wouldn’t be good enough and that no one cared about what I had to say or what is going on in my life. But who cares if someone doesn’t like what I post? It’s not the end of the world.

I only hosted one Desire Map workshop.

Didn’t I just say that becoming a facilitator was one of the highlights of this year? Well, I really didn’t do much facilitating. I hosted a workshop last month that consisted of two of my closest friends and my mother-in-law. We had a great time and there were a couple of aha moments; but I had hoped to do way more with the program.

I didn’t make any progress on my weight loss goal.

One of my goals for last year was to lose some weight. I want to live a healthier lifestyle and get down to a healthier size. I started off the year strong by doing the Whole30. I learned so much about myself and about healthy eating and I wished I kept that momentum throughout the year.

What’s Coming in 2018

I feel like I am finally coming into my own. In 2018, I plan on taking care of myself, putting myself out there, and going after what I want with passion and clarity. Some of the things I have planned for next year are starting a YouTube channel, leading Desire Map workshops, and writing here about building self-confidence and practicing self-love. Stay tuned!



Introduction to The Desire Map

A five-day exploration in identifying your deepest desires.

Challenging Myself to Be Myself

I was sitting in my favorite bar on my 28th birthday. It’s a swanky little place in my hometown called the Shady Lady Saloon. It has the feel of a 1920s speakeasy with cocktails that I can’t get enough of. Two of my favorite people celebrating with me, my husband and my best friend. We’re laughing and reminiscing over our first round of drinks and we decide to order a second round. I was enjoying a refreshing gin cocktail called a white linen and I could wait for the next one to arrive.

As our drinks arrived, I was telling a story about something that happened a couple weeks prior and my best friend gave me a look that said, “What the hell?” She was surprised because we sit right next to each other at work, see each other almost every day and I didn’t tell her when it happened. And you know what, it wasn’t the first time. I apologized and told her that I just have a hard time sharing about my life. Good or bad.


Our conversation stayed in my mind for a couple weeks. I undervalue, or I fear others will undervalue, my stories and my ideas and it’s keeping me from sharing on Facebook, Instagram, or in everyday conversations. More importantly, its keeping me from putting myself out there and going after my goals and dreams.


For the past 8 years (yes I said 8), I have wanted to start a YouTube channel. For the past 6 years, I’ve wanted to start a personal blog. For the past 5 years, I’ve been trying to start a successful business. I’m rolling all of these goals in one big scary, challenge for myself.


I’m stepping out of my comfort zone, hustling to make things happen, and sharing it all here. If you want to follow me on my journey, if you want to hear about my ups, downs, and lessons learned; if you want advice on how to build your own personal brand, subscribe below.